I’ve just finished the book Midnight Library this week. The premise of the book is that between life and death, there is a library where you can see/experience alternative ways your life could have gone if you had made other choices. Before reading these alternate lives, you must go through the Book of Regrets.
“It is not the lives we regret not living that are the real problem. It is the regret itself. It’s the regret that makes us shrivel and wither and feel like our own and other people’s worst enemy. We can’t tell if any of those other versions would have been better or worse. Those lives are happening, it is true, but you are happening as well, and that is the happening we have to focus on.” – Matt Haig, Midnight Library.
Regrets take us out of the present moment – taking us to the past. We are no longer focusing on the happening but instead on what happened.
What can we gain from this?
a) Insight – on what we could have done differently.
b) Self-pity – feeling remorse on an outcome.
Where can this get us?
a) Empowered to make different choices next time.
b) Stuck on the past.
Do you see what I’m doing here?
There are alternate ways to see any situation.
How do you choose to see it?
“It’s not what you look at that matters; it’s what you see.” – Matt Haig, Midnight Library.
There are many ways a situation/practice/life can go based on how we see it. Your homework, if you choose to accept it, is to observe what you see. Where do your eyes naturally go? Where do your thoughts naturally go – meaning without prompts?
Sending you a warm and gentle hug,